I found this great letter on HuffPo via Aaron Flores’ fb page. It’s a letter from a nutritionist to her clients who want their kids put on restrictive diets so they can be thin. Instead of diets she encourages intuitive eating & helping their child develop a healthy relationship with food.
Here’s a couple of paragraphs:
As you have probably noticed, teens are actively working towards independence in their lives. This is a pivotal time and food can become or may already have become a point of contention in your home. I know you want your teenager to be healthy, and in your eyes, and maybe his or hers too, healthy is thinner. You must understand and accept that he or she may never be at a weight that you think is right. If you have a certain number on the scale you want for your teen, forget it.
So what are you suppose to do? You have a job. Your job is to continue to show unconditional love and support. Give your teen time to process what I teach. You concentrate on cooking nutritious and delicious home-based family meals, keeping the family physically active and providing love and support. And keep the food and nutrition comments to yourself. Don’t stand over your teen and say, “Hey sweetie, are you practicing your intuitive eating by having another helping of that high carb rice? I hope you are remembering what Melanie is teaching you.” Let me handle it.