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4 Ways to Support Someone With Depression | World of Psychology

Psych Central 4 Ways to Support Someone with Depression

4 Ways to Support Someone With Depression | World of Psychology

If you are a regular reader of this blog, you probably know the biggest part of my Bipolar Disorder is the Depressions.  I have a lot of days where I can’t get out of bed or get motivated to care about anything including myself.  This is part of the reason I consider myself a perpetual beginner at running because I have quit so often, going weeks or months without running, that I feel like I am constantly starting over.  I’ve been doing much better this year.  I have been committed to my running, therapy, taking my meds, & just generally taking better care of myself.  All of that has combined to put me in a much better place, which has enabled me to do a much better job of all those things.  It’s a cycle of goodness.

Reading this post, much of it rang true to me so naturally I wanted to share it here because I’m sure many of you have either struggled with Depression yourself or have someone close to you who has.

The four main points presented & the parts of them I most identified with are:

  1. Be on their side.  “The person may have lost perspective on how big a problem this actually is. They will find it hard to hear that what is insurmountable for them is actually not such a big deal.”  HUGE!  No faster way to get me to shut you out than to make light of how I’m feeling.
  2. Give Plenty of reassurance.  “Many people suffering with depression feel unworthy of being loved. ”  If you live in this state long enough, even post-Depression it is hard to shake the feeling you don’t deserve to be loved.
  3. Give understanding & sympathy.  “People with depression can spend a lot of time ruminating on their situation and feeling sorry for themselves. Pointing it out to them is not helpful.”  Depression blots out anything good in your life, so pointing out some new way for them to be wrong is the opposite of helpful.
  4. Offer to help. “If you ask, ‘What is the best thing I can do to help you right now?’ don’t be offended if the reply is ‘Leave me alone’. Sometimes, that is the most helpful thing you can do at present.”  <<THIS

And another snippet that rings true for me:

Well meaning people often attempt to fix the problem. They may say something like, “Have you tried aromatherapy? There was an article about it in the paper…” This kind of comment can come across as trivializing the illness.

(I am probably guilty of this last one since I’m feeling better.  Much like a newly recovering addict, you think you have found the answer & you MUST SHARE IT with everyone because it is so awesome & will change their lives, too!)

Read the entire post to get some more suggestions on helping your loved ones who are suffering from Depression.


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Adventures In Depression: Hyperbole & A Half

“…trying to use willpower to overcome the apathetic sort of sadness that accompanies depression is like a person with no arms trying to punch themselves until their hands grow back.  A fundamental component of the plan is missing and it isn’t going to work. “
~Hyperbole & A Half, “Adventures In Depression

Hyperbole & A Half: Adventures In Depression panel, laying in bed depressed

My favorite part is the curled up little arms.
(click image for source, but it’s the same place linked to by the quote & this post)

If you’ve been reading a while, you know I used Hyperbole & A Half’s Sneaky Hate Spiral a while ago.  Here is another one!

This is her latest one.  She is apparently working on a book, so hasn’t done a lot with the blog.  It is about being depressed, & I, along with other friends who have experienced Depression, agree it is one of the most apt representation of what it is like to be depressed.

Sounds just like me, except I never got the bullet proof feeling from being empty & emotionless.  I just got to be an empty dried up shell of a person who couldn’t even cry properly when my mother died. *le sigh*

Oh well, here is (another) link to the post:

Hyperbole & A Half’s “Adventures In Depression”

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Depression Slideshow: Emotional Symptoms, Physical Symptoms, Depression Types, and More

“A lot of people don’t realize that depression is an illness. I don’t wish it on anyone, but if they would know how it feels, I swear they would think twice before they just shrug it.”
~Jonathan Davis 
(Brainy Quotes)

Depression Slideshow: Emotional Symptoms, Physical Symptoms, Depression Types, and More

“…a PET scan revealing “hot spots” of increased activity in the brain of a non-depressed person.” (WebMD slideshow)

I found this slideshow & thought it was interesting, especially the first slide shown above.  The slideshow pretty covers Depression & it’s treatments, lifestyle changes as well as even the more experimental treatments.

Depression Slideshow: Emotional Symptoms, Physical Symptoms, Depression Types, and More.

I am feeling pretty good these days which is wonderful.  Dealing with nasty tornado outbreaks, but so we’ve been lucky.  I am running again & just started back on the 100 push-ups program.  Focusing on daily habit building, which I have been planning on writing about, but I just haven’t sat down to do it…


I think one of the hardest things about clinical depression, as opposed to situational depression, is the discord between what you feel & what you know.  I know that there are people who love me & would be sad if I stopped living, but in my dark times I am unable to feel that no matter how much I try to remind myself.  No amount of rationalizing or remembering or looking at pictures can stop the endless sense of being alone & unloved, uncared about.  It’s a horrible feeling.